The first step in breaking free from abuse, whether it’s sexual or physical or verbal or emotional, is sharing with someone who can help you break free.
I said . . . ‘I
will not say anything while evil people are near.’ I kept quiet, not saying a word . . . But my suffering only
grew worse, and I was overcome with anxiety. The more I thought, the more
troubled I became; I could not keep from asking: ‘Lord, how long will I live? When will I die? Tell me how
soon my life will end’” (Psalm
39:1-4 GNT).
The first step in breaking free from abuse, whether
it’s sexual or physical or verbal or emotional, is sharing with someone who
can help you break free.
Jesus said in John 8:32, “The truth will set you free” (NLT, second edition). Freedom comes when you
open up and admit your pain to someone else.
In a study of 10 nations, it was discovered that
between 55 to 95 percent of women who have been abused by their partners have
never told anybody, and men are even less likely to talk about it or get
help.
Abuse is often called the silent epidemic because
it’s the big, pink elephant in many marriages that nobody wants to talk
about. People suffer in silence.
If anyone in the Bible understood abuse, it was
King David. He was the king who wrote most of the book of Psalms and who also
spent much of his life dealing with abuse, because there were people who
wanted to hurt, kill, abuse, defame, and ridicule him — all kinds of abuse.
In more than 100 passages in the book of Psalms,
David expresses his hurt, frustration, and anger at his enemies. He uses the
word “enemies” nearly 100 times in the New International Version. He talks
about the abuse that they heaped on his life.
But one of the things David modeled for us is this:
Don’t hold it in. In Psalm 39:1-4, David explains what happened when he tried
to keep his struggles a secret: “I said . . . ‘I will not say anything while evil people
are near.’ I kept quiet, not saying a word . . . But my suffering only grew
worse, and I was overcome with anxiety. The more I thought, the more troubled
I became; I could not keep from asking: ‘Lord, how long will I live? When will I die? Tell
me how soon my life will end’” (GNT).
This is a classic response to abuse. David was
afraid to talk about it in the presence of his abusers, but his silence only
made it worse: “I
kept quiet, not saying a word . . . But my suffering only grew worse, and I
was overcome with anxiety.”
If you are experiencing this right now, I want you
to know that God cares about you. I care about you. And there is hope. You
don’t have to stay in that cycle of pain, anxiety, and fear.
But first you’ve got to stop being silent. You’ve
got to speak up and tell someone you trust. You’ve got to bring it into the
light so that God can begin to lead you to healing.
Talk It Over
- What are
the signs of emotional abuse? How can you help a friend who may be
suffering?
- Why do
you think many people who have suffered abuse find it difficult to
accept God’s love?
- Why do we
suffer more when we keep our pain hidden?
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